As a teen, I experienced a sexual awakening watching Bella and Edward get it on in the water and then end up in bed. That scene in The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn is undoubtedly one of the best sex scenes in movie history. Though it’s not a movie with an alien ant farm genre like I love the most, The Twilight Saga was, in fact, so eye-opening.

Do you know why movie sex scenes are just so absolutely sexy? It’s acting. There’s a sense of “these aren’t real people” to the whole thing. And you know what? We can get that same feeling by role-playing. The idea of role-playing with your partner can feel intimidating and, of course, totally weird and awkward if you’re new to it. So here you’ll find valuable tips on how to bring it to your bed.

Lay Out Your Boundaries and Safe Words

Before engaging in any activities that may change your usual identities, have a conversation with your partner to discuss your boundaries. It’s crucial to understand each other’s expectations for the evening. While you may be looking for a one-night adventure, your partner may want it to become a regular occurrence. Others use role-playing as a way to fulfill desires and fantasies. Whatever you both agree on, it’s important that it satisfies both of you. As always, open communication about sex with your partner is key in this situation. If you are practicing BDSM or anything similar, you should also come up with safe words.

Know What to Do in Role Play

It’s obvious, I know. But, you don’t have to drastically change your appearance, but simply go by a different name and tweak your behavior (for example, if you’re usually assertive in the bedroom, try being more submissive). Treat it as if it’s your first date all over again. Also, you can choose who you want to play based on your fantasies. What gets you going? Is it a student/teacher scenario? A nurse/patient scenario? Two roommates? Decide what truly turns you on since if it isn’t something you find sexy, it’ll just feel awkward and funny to both of you. Can you incorporate costumes? Absolutely! However, for those with male partners, a simple change in hairstyle and adding a smokey eye might suffice. And if the situation calls for it, try embodying a specific character. This may be uncomfortable at first, especially for beginners to role-playing, so feel free to start with something simple.

Don’t Start Too Far

The first time you role-play, you don’t have to wear the sexy French maid costume of your dreams or write a fully-written script. Role-playing is easy and casual if you start through text first. This way, you and your partner can gauge how much you enjoy and feel about it without having to “act” in front of each other. If you feel silly, don’t worry. When you’re not used to role-playing, it might feel like you’re back in high school musical theater. It’s different and new, and it takes some time to become comfortable being that way with your partner.

It’s like playing a game, and few people are good at it the first time around. We totally agree that a healthy and happy relationship is based on love, kindness, and generosity. But more than that, sex and intimacy are also crucial aspects of a successful marriage. Yes, you’ll laugh and break character on your first few attempts, but you’ll be incredibly satisfied.…